The first step to finding clarity is to be alone. Sit in silence and listen to your thoughts. Block all the noise. Don’t consume any information. Just listen to your inner voice. What is it saying? What is it screaming? Sometimes you’ll find most of these thoughts to be negative at first. The mind is …
Symptoms, Problems, and Fears
Most of our unwanted behaviors are symptoms of a problem. Procrastination is a symptom. Fear of failing is the problem. Avoiding exercise is a symptom. Fear of losing time is the problem. Not responding to important messages is a symptom. Fear of saying the wrong thing is the problem. Addiction to anything is a symptom. …
Stuck Again
You’re still stuck. Because you haven’t fully changed. You’re still operating with your old behavior patterns. But you never notice it. The solution is to force yourself to do new things. Things that are uncomfortable yet beneficial. Things you used to fear. Do them every day and you’ll see how much they consume your time …
Eliminate and Focus
When we set a goal, our minds default to thinking we need something new to accomplish it. If it’s not new, then more. But those things rarely help. The real solution is to eliminate distractions. A distraction could be anything that robs our focus. I don’t mean a good Netflix show or playing video games …
Trying to Impress, Trying to Prove
The most invaluable poem I discovered last year. It speaks a lot about human nature — the things that most of us do without any clear reason. Nothing’s wrong with these things. But they can be destructive in the long run. You don’t have to believe me. Explore yourself. Question your behavior. Thanks to Gabriele …
Your Life is What You Tolerate
If you tolerate living in a disorganized or shabby house… If you tolerate the addiction or irresponsibility of your spouse… If you tolerate the financial mismanagement of your parents (or your adult kids)… If you tolerate being around negative toxic people… If you tolerate being scammed and cheated… If you tolerate someone’s unethical treatment of …
Self-care is Free
Self-care is taking care of your overall well-being — physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. And it’s always possible. Always realistic. Always within your control. No need to spend on anything (most of the time). All you need to do is make a list of the things that are good for you. Things that spark joy …
When Things Go Wrong
That is the time to test yourself. The time to verify whether you’ve learned from your experiences. All the self-improvement books, podcasts, and videos you’ve consumed are useless if you can’t practice them in real life. What’s the point? Self-improvement requires awful experiences. These awful experiences are opportunities to test possibilities — what you’re willing …
Rethinking
Everything you do regularly — you’ll get used to it. Until you stop questioning them. From there, you’re on autopilot. You’re just going with the flow. The problem starts when life wants you to change something, but you resist. An example of this is when you become a parent. Would you still spend more time …
Nothing’s Wrong
The common problem we all have is forgetting how lucky we are in this generation. The mind likes to think there’s always something wrong. And so we should keep changing until perfection. But perfection is subjective. It’s personal. Imagine the 1920s. Think about the people living in that era. Every material possession you have right …
Guard Your Mind
Anything we consume online can influence our minds. If we mindlessly scroll on TikTok, Facebook, or Instagram every day, we feed our minds all those random things. Every. Single. Day. We don’t need most of those things. Most don’t have value. But why are we still doing it? I’ve written before about not owning a …
Your Own World is Not Real
Your desires. Your aspirations. Your preferences. They are not purely intentional. At some point, someone instilled them in you. Could be your family or friends. Or school teachers, classmates, workmates, neighbors, or even strangers. Anyone. Whatever you read, watch, or hear — anything you put in your mind, thanks to the Internet — can become …
Overwhelmed and Paralyzed
The things to do keep piling up. Your mind is racing. Emotions all over the place. But you’re not getting anywhere. You can’t focus. Can’t even start. You are overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is like being paralyzed. You want to move, but for some reason, you can’t. And you don’t have any idea what’s going on. …
Face the Truth
The truth is the truth. It is undeniable. What you see and hear. In front of you. The truth doesn’t fool you. It is real. It is the thing. It is what’s happening. Without the sugarcoat. Without the labels. In front of you. No matter how many interpretations you have, the truth remains. You can …
Multiple Threads
The mind is an open blank space. It wanders. Speculates. Analyzes. Creates. Absorbs. Thoughts come and go. Sometimes it stores what is needed. But for the most part, it discards. It forgets things that don’t matter yet. If you aim to be efficient at anything, you can’t just absorb everything that comes your way. Instead, …