You can’t just dismiss all the right moves you did because of one wrong move. No matter how destructive that action was, you still made enough right moves in the past. You aren’t where you are right now if not because of you. It’s OK to feel embarrassed and guilty. Acknowledge it. Reflect on it. … Continue Reading →

It’s so easy to get drowned when there’s a problem. So easy to blame. Easy to run. Our default is to react (and curse) — “Shit! Stupid! Wtf! Come on!” But any form of action has an equal or opposite reaction (Newton’s Third Law). That means those you consider “problems” are actually the “reactions”. Something … Continue Reading →

Every time you lose control and burst anger, you’re releasing energy. Releasing means reacting. For most people, that’s better than hiding their emotions. But that doesn’t mean it’s always the way to go. Reactions are not always valid. Especially if the cause isn’t something you should be angry about. But yes, it happens. It’s not … Continue Reading →

Maybe the reason you started a creative project is you’re curious to try it. Curiosity was the starting point. Eventually you’ve learned to love it. And you want to become the best of it. Because being the best could make you famous. Being famous could mean more opportunities. And more opportunities could mean more money. … Continue Reading →

A common belief among young people pursuing their dreams is: “Trust the process.” But trusting the process without questioning it can be dangerous. Imagine studying at a university for 4 years to become a so-called “professional”. Or sacrificing everything you love doing to gain financial freedom. Or undergoing chronic stress and unnecessary pressure for the … Continue Reading →

When you’re young and naive, you’d be tempted to pursue things you think would elevate your status. Your desire is irresistible since you wanted to impress your family and peers. All you want is get their validation. Without their validation, you are nothing. That’s why it’s common to see a young adult (early 20s) doing … Continue Reading →

Last 2020, I wrote about my frustrations when we moved into a new house — reorganizing stuff, balancing work and creative projects, building a routine, etc. If you’ve read it, you know my frustration. And it’s happening again. Last month, we moved into a new house. This one is huge, which means more organizing to … Continue Reading →

For some people, maybe it’s important for them to focus on recording that album or selling that product. Or maybe it’s important for them to focus on what’s happening in their country’s politics, a celebrity’s life, or a favorite artist. If you’re wondering why you’re not moving in the direction you intend to be, ask … Continue Reading →

Social media has made us stalkers. It’s now easy to know what others are doing. The obvious downside is you can’t help but compare. Those you see doing greater things can make you feel envious. You feel bad for being small and not successful. Keep doing that and you’ll end up anxious — of course, … Continue Reading →

If you’re always looking for motivation, that means you don’t really want to do whatever you’re about to do. But you have to do it anyway because other people depend on you. Sometimes it works. Sometimes you can’t tell. Yet you have to do it anyway. But what if you’re sick and tired of it? … Continue Reading →

Any negative emotion and thought, if not channeled appropriately, could lead you into the dark. This dark place is where negativity, irrational fears, worries, and all the demons lurk. Too much stress and overthinking will lead you there. The more you spend time in that place, the more you become a coward — because it … Continue Reading →

Most people know what’s important and what’s not. It’s simple. Unimportant things are things that don’t really matter. A waste of time. Why waste time if you know life is short? But that’s not the real problem. The real problem is we still keep wasting time on things that are unimportant, though we all agree … Continue Reading →

I finally got back to running/jogging last week — thanks to coach Mandy Keene. Even better my younger brother visited. So we did it together. I can say that having a companion helps. More fun and exciting. We even played basketball afterward as we both felt the momentum. This morning, I did it again. I … Continue Reading →

Decide what thing you really want to focus on. Just one thing. Make it your mission. Commit to becoming really good at it. A master. An expert. A world-class performer. Do it every single day, whatever happens. Regardless of your situation, you will find time to work on it. You must focus. Have tunnel vision. … Continue Reading →

What are you doing with your free time? With your extra money? With your computer, your smartphone? What are you doing with everything you have that others don’t? If you have a computer and stable Internet, try blogging or podcasting about your interest. Educate yourself using YouTube, online courses, and e-books. You can do almost … Continue Reading →