When the thing we worship consumes us and blinds us from seeing reality, that’s not a good place. Worship a beautiful body, you’ll always feel ugly. Worship money and material possessions, you’ll never have enough. Worship power, you’ll never feel powerful. Worship fame, you’ll never feel famous. What actually happens is that our brains trick … Continue Reading →

Deep inside, you know who you are. You just keep denying it because of others’ expectations. But it’s about time to be brutally honest with yourself. Right now. Ask yourself what it is. What is that one thing you’d really love to do? If you can’t come up with a solid answer, try amplifying it … Continue Reading →

It can be tempting to make excuses why you can’t achieve that crazy dream. There are so many things to blame. Your country. Your parents. Your community. Your physical inadequacy. And on and on. Now you’re losing hope — or maybe not. Maybe you’re just researching. Asking questions. Seeking answers. Or maybe just waiting for … Continue Reading →

Some people (who know me) often assume that I’m wise because I’ve read lots of books. But that’s not even close. When they ask me about politics or a particular mathematics formula (which I don’t have any idea), almost all the time I’d reply “I don’t know”. They don’t like it, for sure. But I’m … Continue Reading →

All these “live a good life” philosophies or self-improvement practices are not meant to make us perfect individuals. They aren’t meant to make our lives perfect every single day. They are just a target to aim for. If you’re feeling bad or beating yourself up because of failing to hit your mark, you miss the … Continue Reading →

Last Aug 2020, I turned 31. Yay! And again, it took me a year (or more) to distill and reflect the most important truths I’ve learned. I’m starting to accept that this is actually my process. So maybe I have to stop apologizing why it always take so long? You can check my previous entries … Continue Reading →

“Someday, I want to become that kind of person.” Sure. Why not? But don’t confuse it with happiness and success. Happiness Having a goal isn’t always a requirement to be happy. Happiness is a state, not a result. Which means, we can choose to be happy right now whatever our situation is. We only need … Continue Reading →

Most people I know never feel enough. And with social media, that feeling is even more amplified. We say to ourselves we should be doing better or living life differently or investing in cryptocurrencies because that’s what others are doing. Otherwise, we’re left behind. We’re being stupid for not taking advantage of the opportunities. You … Continue Reading →

If you’ve played some video games specifically a role-playing game (RPG), then you’ve experienced how being a hero works. But even if you haven’t played one, it’s still relatively easy to understand a hero’s life — thank you Marvel Studios! So here’s how it goes: You start by picking a character (the hero). Then you … Continue Reading →

Every time you say “I don’t have time I’m busy”, it’s not that you don’t really have time. It just means it’s not your priority right now. Imagine you’re being invited to a party — scheduled next Friday. If you’re hesitating, it’s likely you already have a plan next Friday. And it’s impossible to reschedule. … Continue Reading →

Silly question. Can you remember anything before you’re born? I couldn’t remember anything either. They told me I was born in 1989. But what happened to me before that? Where am I? What was the world look like that time? Even more frustrating, I couldn’t remember most of the things that happened to me when … Continue Reading →

No matter how disciplined or intelligent you think you are, you are still you — an imperfect human being. You can’t change that. Can’t escape that. You will make mistakes. You will make irrational decisions. You will make fun of others to feel good about yourself. And at some point you’d probably get tempted to … Continue Reading →

You didn’t wish to be born. Didn’t choose your parents. Didn’t choose your race. But here you are… With your own personality, preferences, ideas, and beliefs. Unique in your own way. But there’s one problem — you’re not proud of who you are. You are shy, afraid, and anxious to show others your true self. … Continue Reading →

Thanks to the Internet. We now have access to an endless stream of information. Sounds good? Yes and No. It’s good because we can easily find the right information we need to inform ourselves. But it becomes not good when we lose control of our consumption. The mind has only limited capacity. It is not … Continue Reading →

Becoming efficient at something means you’re flowing like water. You’re delivering what needs to be delivered. You’re nailing it. This requires an insane amount of focus and discipline. But efficiency isn’t all-encompassing. If you try to be efficient at one thing, you might become less efficient at other things. It’s the truth. When I became … Continue Reading →